Fighting Addiction: H.O.P.E. HOLD ON, PAIN ENDS ~ Seven Steps to Breaking Your Addiction

Fighting Addiction ~ H.O.P.E. HOLD ON, PAIN ENDS

Fighting Addiction:

H.O.P.E.

HOLD ON, PAIN ENDS

 

Seven Steps to Breaking Your Addiction

Whether you want to stop drinking, quit tobacco use, gambling or simply spend less time on the computer…

1) Acknowledge the purpose. Why do you do it? You have to be able to answer that question. Is it to help you deal with anxiety and stress? It may be hard for you to admit that you have a drinking or smoking habit, but you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. Dr. Phil says, “What purpose does the behavior serve for you? If you’re an alcoholic, you’re not just drinking because you’re thirsty. Admit to yourself: ‘I’m medicating myself for anxiety, depression and pain. It numbs me to life.’”

2) Think rational thoughts instead of denial. You understand at a conscious level, at an intellectual level that your addiction is unhealthy, yet you continue and this perplexes you. Dr. Phil points out, “If you’re in denial about it, if you’re minimizing it, if you’re trivializing it, if you’re conning yourself about it, then you’ll never get where you need to be.” If you can’t get through the day without a shot of vodka, you may be medicating yourself for anxiety, depression or pain. You may need to count on others to help you think rationally.

3) Use alternative coping skills. People don’t break bad habits; they replace them with new ones. Recognize that you get a reward from smoking or drinking. Dr. Phil explains, “It calms you. It takes your anxiety away. It lifts your spirits. It numbs you to the pain of your life. If I take that away from you and then don’t put anything in its place, then you’re just there stripped of your coping mechanisms and you’re going to go back to what you were doing before.” Some alternative techniques to consider to replace your addiction are breathing exercises or relaxation techniques.

4) Identify your danger zones. A danger zone can be a particular time of day or your reaction to a particular circumstance. There are times that you’re more prone to indulge in your habit than others. Recognize what those times are, and do something that is incompatible with the addiction you’re trying to break. For example, if you have the urge to light up during your 3 p.m. break at work, take that time to do your breathing or relaxation exercises instead. Dr. Phil encourages, “If you get through that two or three moments of impulse, I promise you it will go away.” You don’t have to be strong and powerful all day long every day. You just need to recognize your danger zones, and do something incompatible with your addiction.

5) Make lifestyle changes. “It’s not willpower, it’s programming,” Dr. Phil says. You have to set your life up for success if you’re going to break your addiction. If you’re trying to stop smoking or drinking, try simple things like not carrying money for cigarette vending machines or cleaning your cupboards of alcoholic beverages. You may have to change the places you frequent, what you do for fun and whom you hang out with. If you are a computer junkie, remove the computer from your house. The best way to stop an addiction is to not have access to it.

6) Be accountable and have a support system. Being accountable to someone means that that person will not only support you, but will give you the kick in the rear that you need when it gets tough and tell you the truth when you’re kidding yourself. Get your family and friends involved in your efforts to kick the habit. If you’re a smoker, print out these cards from Dr. Phil that warn your friends to refrain from indulging you. You can also find addiction support on the message boards at DrPhil.com. You need to find a community that supports you during this time and embraces your decision to be healthier. You may also need to seek treatment or check into a rehabilitative program.

7) Reward yourself. Overcoming an addiction can be very difficult, but it can be done. When you see yourself making progress, even baby steps, you have to motivate yourself to keep going. Give yourself credit. Reward yourself for every step you make, starting with admitting that you have a problem and asking for help…Dr. Phil

 

Fighting Addiction:

“…People whose lives have been affected by addiction – one of our nation’s most urgent health crises – about finding a path to overcome the disease. Plus, find out what you can do to raise awareness for the cause.”

“Addiction: The Medical and Mental Health Perspective;http://www.doctoroz.com/article/addiction-medical-and-mental-health-perspective

What is “addiction”? The word has many definitions and triggers different emotions, experiences and conditions. Learn more about how physicians and substance abuse counselors categorize different types of addiction and how you can recognize it in a loved one.

Addiction is a deadly disease. The American Society of Addiction Medicine defines addiction as “a primary, chronic, neurobiologic disease, with genetic, psychosocial and environmental factors influencing its development and manifestations.” Those who are addicted to a substance (like alcohol, prescription drugs or street drugs) or to an activity (like gambling or shopping) tend to partake in neurologically programmed behaviors that demonstrate a lack of control, constant cravings, and continued use despite dire consequences.

Some addictions are more deadly than others. While one may be addicted to the caffeine in a cup of coffee, another may be addicted to potentially dangerous substances like alcohol or heroin….”

“U.S. Drug Czar Michael Botticelli Talks America’s Drug Problem:
Michael Botticelli, U.S. drug czar…discuss the addiction epidemic sweeping the country and why people need to start talking about the problem more openly;”http://www.doctoroz.com/video-series/dr-ozs-guide-fighting-addiction?video_id=4518142699001

*Inside the Day of a Highly Functioning Alcoholic;http://www.doctoroz.com/episode/secrets-high-functioning-alcoholic#cmpid=em08102016

*What Alcohol Addiction Looks Like
*Overcame Alcohol Addiction
*The Anatomy of Secrets and Double Lives
*How to Recognize an Eating Disorder
*How to Recognize a Secret Addiction
*What to Do If You’re Addicted to Online Shopping
*How to Overcome Your Online Shopping Addiction
*3 Tech Tricks to Stop Compulsive Online Shopping
*Web Extra: …3 Genius Online Hacks to Shop Like a Pro
*The Secrets of a High-Functioning Alcoholic

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“Honor your Father and your Mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12 ESV

“Honor your Father and your Mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20~12 ESV

“Honor your Father and your Mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12 ESV

 

Why and How to Honor Father and Mother

 

God has commanded that we are to honor our parents with no exception clause.

Exodus 20:12 English Standard Version (ESV)

The Ten Commandments
…12 “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”

 

Honoring our Fathers and Mothers means more than just being obedient and respectful. It also means loving them freely. We need to remember that, like us, they are not perfect. While we are learning to be good children, they are learning to be good Fathers and Mothers.

 

Culture of Rebellion

When we idolize something, we’ll demonize it eventually. And what we have done is  idolized youth and we’ve demonized old age. We have idolized rebellion, and as a result, we demonize honor, and that’s the culture in which we live.”

According to the Bible, this is the essence of all our trouble. “We separate ourselves from our earthly Father and Mother… to our own destruction and demise because when we choose to sin, we choose to suffer.”

Honor who? “Well, the Father’s listed first. The Father is the head of the household… The father bears particular responsibility in the sight of God. And Mother. Mother is alongside of Father, working with him. Like a right hand, and a left hand, mom and dad are to be working together to love and lead the family.”

To Honor means to Respect, to defer, to submit.  “It means to have Love, Appreciation, Affection towards them. Honor is something that begins internally, and then it manifests itself externally. As you have Honor in your Heart, it comes out in your words.”

As a noun, honor in the Bible means “esteem, value, or great respect.” To honor someone is to value him highly or bestow value upon him. The Bible exhorts us to express honor and esteem toward certain people: our parents, the aged, and those in authority (Ephesians 6:2; Leviticus 19:32; Romans 13:1).

Ephesians 6:2 English Standard Version (ESV)

2”Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise),

Leviticus 19:32 English Standard Version (ESV)

32 “You shall stand up before the gray head and honor the face of an old man, and you shall fear your God: I am the Lord.

Romans 13:1 English Standard Version (ESV)

Submission to the Authorities

13 Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God.

 

Married Couples

Respect and Honor their spouse in front of the children. “This doesn’t mean that moms and dads can’t have conflict and disagreement. It means that when they have conflict, they either deal with it privately, and sometimes, when they deal with it in front of the children, they deal with it Honorably, Respectfully and Responsibly.”

Matthew 6:12-15 English Standard Version (ESV)

Forgiveness

12 and forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

14 For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, 15 but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Psalm 130:4 New International Version (NIV)

Forgiveness

4 But with you there is forgiveness,
so that we can, with reverence, serve you.

Exodus 34, Deuteronomy 5 ESV

Exodus 34:6-7 English Standard Version (ESV)

6…“The Lord, the Lord, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness, 7 keeping steadfast love for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, but who will by no means clear the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children and the children’s children, to the third and the fourth generation.”

Deuteronomy 5:8-10 English Standard Version (ESV)

The Ten Commandments

8’’’You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is on the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. 9 You shall not bow down to them or serve them; for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, 10 but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments.

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1. The sins of the fathers are punished in the children through becoming the sins of the children.

I the Lord…visit the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing steadfast love to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments.” (Exodus 20:5; cf. Numbers 14:18)

The generations to come who experience the penalty of the fathers’ sins are those who hate God. We are not told how the fathers’ sins become the children’s sins. But what we are told is that when the father’s sins are visited on the children it is because the children are really sinful. That is the form in which the fathers’ sins are visited. Therefore, all judgment is really deserved by the person who is punished.

2. Because of God’s grace, which is finally secured by Christ, the children can confess their own sins and the sins of their fathers and be forgiven and accepted by God.

But if they confess their iniquity and the iniquity of their fathers…if then their uncircumcised heart is humbled and they make amends for their iniquity, then I will remember my covenant with Jacob” (Leviticus 26:40-42).

The precious words of Exodus 34:6-7 are not nullified by the generational migration of sin.

The Lord, the Lord, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness,  keeping steadfast love for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin. John Piper (@JohnPiper)

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1 John 4:7-8 English Standard Version (ESV)

 

Loving God
Love Is From God

7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.
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Jesus’ Triumphal Entry into Jerusalem, “Holy Week,” Sunday, March 20 ~ Sunday, March 27, 2016 ~ The Death and Resurrection of Our Savior, Jesus Christ.

''Jesus' Triumphal Entry Into Jerusalem'' Matthew 21

Jesus' Triumphal Entry. Matthew 21.1,2a, 7,8,9 ESV. Images. Hosanna!

Jesus’ Triumphal Entry. Matthew 21:1, 2a, 7, 8, 9 ESV. Images. Hosanna!

 

The Triumphal Entry

21 Now when they drew near to Jerusalem and came to Bethphage, to the Mount of Olives, then Jesus sent two disciples, 2 saying to them, “Go into the village in front of you, and immediately you will find a donkey tied, and a colt with her. Untie them and bring them to me. 3 If anyone says anything to you, you shall say, ‘The Lord needs them,’ and he will send them at once.” 4 This took place to fulfill what was spoken by the prophet, saying,

5 “Say to the daughter of Zion,
‘Behold, your king is coming to you,
humble, and mounted on a donkey,
on a colt,[a] the foal of a beast of burden.’”

6 The disciples went and did as Jesus had directed them. 7 They brought the donkey and the colt and put on them their cloaks, and he sat on them. 8 Most of the crowd spread their cloaks on the road, and others cut branches from the trees and spread them on the road. 9 And the crowds that went before him and that followed him were shouting, “Hosanna to the Son of David! Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord! Hosanna in the highest!” 10 And when he entered Jerusalem, the whole city was stirred up, saying, “Who is this?” 11 And the crowds said, “This is the prophet Jesus, from Nazareth of Galilee.” Matthew 21:1-11 ESV.  The Triumphal Entry, Parallel Passages and Audio: Matthew 21, Luke 19, John 12 ESV.

 

The Passover with the Disciples

Institution of the Lord’s Supper

Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet

Passages and Audio: Matthew 26, Luke 22, John 13 ESV

 

The Crucifixion

The Death of Jesus

Jesus Is Buried

The Resurrection

The Ascension

Passages and Audio: Luke 23, 24 ESV

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